The Hard Path is Easier

Early in my career I learned that people, like water, tend to seek the path of least resistance.  That is, left to their own devices, people will often do what is easiest rather than what is best (and generally harder).

Throughout my career in BNI I’ve seen groups that didn’t want to follow the system and applied very little if any accountability within the group.  I’ve seen some groups that take that easy path. They don’t hold members accountable for attendance, quality referrals, following the system, or general support of the group. Many of these things are, in fact, hard to maintain. The real tragedy is that they may go down this path for a very long time, unwilling to take the necessary hard steps to build a successful BNI group. The results are inevitable—the chapter struggles.

On the other hand, I see some groups that work hard to maintain attendance, generate quality referrals, follow the system, immerse in a culture of learning, and cultivate a positive attitude. This is incredibly difficult to do consistently. However, these chapters are almost always much more successful.

In life, taking the hard path often makes life – in the long run, much easier, and taking the easy path often makes life much harder.  We’ve all seen this during our lifetimes.  For me it started in school.  I saw kids that took shortcuts or didn’t study.  They took it really easy

Are you practicing hard/easy or are you practicing easy/hard in your life?

This is a powerful question for every BNI chapter to ask. It might make a great discussion with your fellow members. Is your group taking the hard path to success? If not, what can you do, right now, today, to help move the chapter forward on the hard path to make your life easier?

Remember, taking the hard path often makes life easier, and taking the easy path often makes life harder.

Called the “father of modern networking” by CNN, Dr. Ivan Misner is a New York Times bestselling author.  He is the Founder and Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, the world’s largest business networking organization.  His new book, Avoiding the Networking Disconnect can be viewed at Amazon.com.

I Want to Know What You Think Makes a Great Networker?

I’ve been writing about networking for more than 30 years!  After all these years, I still find that there are many misnomers about what business networking should, or shouldn’t be about.  Many people think that business networking is basically about direct selling.  Others think that is about relationship building.  What do you think makes a great networker?

Recently, I asked hundreds of business people around the world for a list of what they thought made a great networker and I got a pretty substantial list of different and distinct characteristics that they felt represented an effective networker.  I’ve compiled that list in a short survey.  Some of these characteristics include: following up on referrals, positive attitude, trustworthy, and sincerity.

I’d like to know what you think are the top characteristics of a great networker.  Take this really short survey and let me know.  I’d particularly like any observations as to why you chose the characteristics that you did and how you see them applying to you in business.  I’ll publish the results by January.

Take Survey Here.

Called the “father of modern networking” by CNN, Dr. Ivan Misner is a New York Times bestselling author.  He is the Founder and Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, the world’s largest business networking organization.  His new book, Avoiding the Networking Disconnect can be viewed at Amazon.com.

First Impressions

Submitted by Russ Bibens, The Masters BNI, BNI Vermont


How many of you have heard that the first 10 seconds is most important when meeting someone for the first time? Probably all of you. You haven’t even spoken, and already you have been judged. You can be judged on body language, something as simple as posture or even a smile, or your appearance. The latter is easily adjustable.

BNI is a professional business organization designed to help your company grow and be profitable. If you are going to meet with clients, would you show up in shorts and flip flops? For the most part, no. It is appropriate to wear either equally appropriate attire as, or a step above, your client. For example, people in a trade would be appropriately attired in slacks and maybe a branded shirt. This would give a first impression of confidence and caring, which can set the stage for a positive first impression.

That said, would you go to a BNI meeting in less than you would wear to meet a client? Dr. Ivan Misner has stated that jeans are not professional. Again let me use the analogy of the person dressed in shorts and flip flops and the person in business attire. Who would you be more apt to give a referral to: the beach goer or the professional? The level of confidence attire alone gives you in the professional would make you more likely to give referrals to the professional.  This isn’t to say you wouldn’t give referrals to the other eventually or at all, but most likely less often and with a concern of how they would show up at the client’s site.

Ask and Thou Shalt Receive

Submitted bFarzana Suri, BNI SOL, Mumbai West, India


A member in my chapter is a printer and kept asking for a company called Sika Chemicals who were located in North West Mumbai. Every Thursday, he’d stand up to give his Weekly Presentation and he’d end with “My ask this week is Sika Chemicals.”

We heard this for 36 weeks. One day, I made it my mission to do something about it. On LinkedIn, I searched for the managing director or anyone with Sika Chemicals among my connects. The result was zilch. Nothing. I searched Facebook and encountered the same result. I looked up the website to understand what business were they really into. It was a Swiss chemical manufacturing company.

I said to myself, “It’s okay, Farzana. You tried.”

A few days later while I was posting an update on LinkedIn, guess who came up in the list of People You May Know? Yes, the managing director of Sika. I penned an email, introducing myself as being a part of a business community called BNI, and said I was writing in for a business associate and member of my group who was asking to meet the relevant person in the company to be considered for their printing work. I asked if I could meet him or the person connected with the printing decisions for their organization.

The next morning, to my surprise and joy, I received a prompt reply. He was in Melbourne and agreed to meet on a specific day and time upon his return.

On the assigned day, I took along the printer in my chapter for a Power Date. I had never met the managing director, and my relationship with him was as good as two formal email interactions can get. He greeted us cordially and introduced the printer to the company’s Administration Team. They exchanged cards and the managing director suggested that the printer be in touch with the Admin Team and would need to begin with a small job to gain trust through his capabilities and credentials. Based on that, he would be considered for future jobs.

Then he turned to me and said, “What do you do?” I smiled and responded, “I’m a Victory Coach and I’m involved in personal coaching and training. However, I’m here today to help promote the printer’s business not mine.” He took my business card, looked at me straight in the eye and said, “Fair enough.”

I kept in touch with the director to see if there was any way in which I could be of help to him. The company manufactures construction chemicals and I thought with my connections perhaps I could patch him to a real estate developer. I wanted to give back in some way as well.

For the next few weeks, I also kept checking with the printer on any updates with Sika. However, his response was, “I’m connecting with them regularly and I’m in touch.”

A few weeks later I received a call from the managing director’s office checking if I could meet the HR Head for a Training assignment for me with their Sales Team. I was honoured and delighted and facilitated the training a few weeks ago.

I learned a few things from this episode of my life in BNI.

It’s what Dr. Ivan Misner keeps reiterating and what makes BNI the world’s largest referral and networking organization.

  1. Cold mail can bear results if one reaches out with the intention to help another.
  2. Ask and thou shalt receive.
  3. Specific is terrific.
  4. Follow up incessantly on referrals.
  5. Importantly, build relationships.
  6. Givers Gain.

I have so much to be thankful for, as BNI has taught me the way entrepreneurship is done and most importantly, to give, because the by-product of building relationships is business, not the other way around.

Weekly Meeting Stimulants, Part One

Submitted by James Vineeth, BNI Dynamic, Coimbatore, India


BNI is a great platform for leaders to emerge and unleash their true potential. We had some amazing meeting stimulants over the last 6 months, and I would love to share them with the rest of the BNI Family.

Share with us your ideas for meeting stimulants, or what happened when you used any of the suggestions below at successnet@bni.com

  • Just imagine it is the year 2020, and you are attending a meeting of your chapter! What will your Weekly Presentation be? Think of the future of your business. In four years, you will have achieved many milestones. You could even be a celebrity in your field! Share with your chapter what your future presentation will be, so that your fellow members can learn from you what your future will hold.
  • Our first client is always special to us, and will always be something we remember. During your Weekly Presentation this week, share with your chapter who your first client was.
  • The road to being successful isn’t easy. There are great moments to cherish, and tough moments to work through. Every member of your chapter is part of your Dream Team, and are there to stand by you and support you. As part of your weekly presentation, share with your chapter what the greatest challenge you currently face in your business is. Share what referral can help you overcome that challenge.
  • We all love a challenge, don’t we? There have been many times when your prospect has been difficult to convert to client, and when you succeed, you feel on top of the world. Share with your chapter at time when a prospect was particularly difficult to close business with, and how you overcame that struggle.
  • Steve Jobs said, ‘Stay hungry, stay foolish.’ As entrepreneurs in a changing global economy, we are challenged to learn, forget and relearn things to stay on top in business. Behind every great leader, there was a foolish idea that helped them succeed. During your Weekly Presentation, share with the chapter a time you had an idea that was outside the box, possibly even foolish, and it gave you great success.
  • This one takes some planning ahead. Members of the chapter should be told in advance which day to bring a prop. Then, the chapter is to have a prop day. On the selected day, each member should use their prop to help describe their business. Impress your fellow members with products, ideas and creativity

Creating a Life that Matters

By Paul R. Scheele, Ph.D., Learning Strategies

Are you doing what matters most to you?

I’m not talking about what makes you happy in the moment, but rather, what really drives your life. What gives your life meaning?

In a study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology that examines self-reported attitudes toward happiness and meaning, the researchers found a meaningful life and a happy life overlap in certain ways, but are ultimately different, reports Emily Esfahani Smith in The Atlantic.

“While happiness is an emotion felt in the here and now, it ultimately fades away, just as all emotions do,” wrote Smith. “The amount of time people report feeling good or bad correlates with happiness but not at all with meaning. Meaning, on the other hand, is enduring. It connects the past to the present to the future.”

Another study confirmed this, she said. “People who have meaning in their lives, in the form of a clearly defined purpose, rate their satisfaction with life higher even when they were feeling bad than those who did not have a clearly defined purpose.”

Stewart Emery and his co-authors of the book Success Built to Last interviewed the world’s most successful people to distill exactly what drives them, and it’s pretty simple.

“Above all else, no matter where they have chosen to excel—in business, the arts, sports, social service, community, or family—each has achieved success by focusing on the things that matter most to them,” he said.

“Enduringly successful people follow their hearts, aligning their thoughts and actions with their passions,” said Stewart. “They become energized by their work and stay on purpose and committed in the face of setbacks and challenges.”

Imagine those three elements—meaning, thought, and action—as the primary colors of enduring success. When the primary colors of red, blue, and green overlap, they create a bright, white light, a target that is easy to see.

To create a life that matters to you, consider the following:

  • What gives your life meaning? What brings you the greatest joy? Loving what you do and who you are is the greatest motivator for building lasting success.
  • Are your thoughts toxic or supportive? Are negative thoughts and self-doubt or the criticism of others drowning out that voice inside of your head—that whisper or “silent scream” telling you what really matters? Learn to responsibly manage your thoughts in ways that keep you on track to your goals, despite obstacles or burdens you will undoubtedly face.
  • Are you taking action? What are you doing to bring you closer to your goals or attract into your life people and activities that will support you? While meaning drives success, meaning without action will get you nowhere.

When you align your thoughts and actions with what gives your life meaning, you magnify your passion and impart greater clarity to your purpose than ever before.

To help you recognize what truly gives you satisfaction and support the expression of your unique gifts, I recommend you listen to an audio program I co-created with Stewart Emery called Success Built to Last. Simply push play, close your eyes, relax, and listen. You will be led through a closed-eye process that activates your “whole mind” with a precise blend of music and words to help you acquire new behaviors.

To learn more about Success Built to Last and the 41 other Paraliminal programs, please click here. Other titles in the Paraliminal library include Abundant Money Mindset,Anxiety-Free, Deep Relaxation, Financial Security, New Action Generator, Positive Relationships, Power Thinking, and 10-Minute Supercharger.

Chapter Goal Setting for Leadership Teams: One Size Does Not Fit All

Submitted by Sara Minnis, BNI Fast Track, del Fuego Companies


As a Leadership Team, one of the most important functions you will execute throughout your term is setting and tracking goals for your chapter. Pretty much everyone has been exposed to goal setting in their BNI chapter, business and life. For some reason most of us keep setting goals, even though it’s common that we don’t achieve them outright. For most of us, this reduces the impact of goals significantly. So, let’s take a look at the real reasons so many goals go unaccomplished, and then we’ll look in detail at three types of chapters, and the specific types of goals that we have found most effective for each one.

First, let’s review what happens in many chapters as new leadership comes on board, to give us a good starting perspective. Many Leadership Teams set goals because they are “supposed to” — it’s part of their job. And often the “supposed to” goals are simple percentages for improvement. For example, “we want to double our membership” and “triple our revenue”. Now, that type of goal sounds great, and it feels pretty good when you inform the membership. There’s a short burst of camaraderie and excitement in the room. But over time that enthusiasm slowly slides off the table, because there wasn’t a plan to make it happen. Plus, the goal was often set for the members, not with the members. Basically, with no buy-in and only vague ideas about the behaviors which could help them actually reach those goals, members lose momentum as the reality of achievement drifts further and further away.

Let’s set a common framework so we have a shared understanding about goals. In its best form, a goal is a target to aim for, that you can measure, and that fits the particular audience or individual for whom it is created. Goals that work are essentially designed to produce the behaviors needed for success. Goals are intended to be achieved. So, when you set a goal for your chapter and your membership, you have the chance to help them realize a more prosperous future, mold the behaviors needed to get there and build the culture needed to stay there.

How do you decide what goals are best for your group?

Goal Setting Based on the BNI Chapter Lifecycle

Effective goal setting relates meaningfully to the Chapter Lifecycle. Each stage in the Chapter Lifecycle benefits best from different types of goals, because there are different chapter characteristics and dynamics occurring at each stage. Let’s take a quick peek at the Chapter Lifecycle, and then we’ll explore the specifics of goal setting for each type of chapter.

Not sure which stage your chapter is in? Check out our previous SuccessNet article to get started.

BNI Build & Grow: Best Practice Goals Build the Team

You know your chapter is in the Build & Grow stage if it’s up to five or so years old, still very active in all things BNI, continuing to add qualified members regularly, growing individual revenue for members and attracting the right new members with a thriving chapter culture.

In this kind of chapter, goals should help members put best practices into place so that their BNI business team is developed with a solid foundation. Let’s look in detail at some of the possibilities.

  1. Revenue and Referral Goals. These can be set by individual members, and this is a powerful exercise that allows members to see with their real numbers what’s possible in BNI. In Fast Track chapters, these are set at the beginning of the program and then tracked weekly to keep tabs on how members are doing. The goal here is to reduce the close ratio of referral to sale. What reduces that? All the great BNI principles and techniques! Think Target Market, where are you in the VCP Process© with members, Sales Manager Minute/Weekly Presentation, Time Confidence Curve and GAINS Exchange. Seeing their referral close ratio drop as they sharpen these skills is very exciting for members! 
    Suggested Activity: Make sure members have a true Revenue and Referral Goal that includes how much money they want to make and how many referrals it will take to get there. This is their activity meter for success! Then all the members’ goals can be added up to form the overall Chapter Revenue and Referral Goal. This makes the Revenue and Referral Goal a true team building cornerstone for the chapter, and when you track it over time and encourage the behaviors needed to achieve the goal, you’ve got a home run!
  2. Building the Winning Team. This goal is focused on chapter growth and building the team that will help all your members reach their goals. Yes, all entrepreneurs can benefit from BNI. Nevertheless, each chapter will win the most by selecting the right professions or industries to join, which will serve to accelerate referrals. Be choosy and committed to finding the right fit. Every chapter is different in terms of which members (and professions) are the best to add at any given time. Hint: What professions would make your Power Teams stronger or help you to create new Power Teams? 
    Suggested Activity: Be strategic with who you invite and who you ask to join. Ensure that the member professions and your growth goals are achievable. We suggest aiming for a minimum of four to five new members at a time, plus what you would account for in attrition. Steady, organic growth produces long-term results and long-term members.
  3. Create the Culture. In a Build & Grow group, this is a fun way to recognize and encourage the behaviors that help everyone reach their goals, and that serve to establish a thriving chapter culture. Member-by-member, as you celebrate the behaviors you want to see, everyone takes notice of what’s expected… and your culture will flourish. 
    Suggested Activity: Choose a behavior you want to increase. Some examples include: number of one-to-ones with members resulting in referrals, most easily understood Target Market, best inviting member, and most referrals for a Power Team. You can also utilize group competitions that run every six weeks or so, to focus on these areas. Remember, what you celebrate and recognize increases! For most impactful results, choose areas that affect one-to-ones, increased referrals, and increased membership.

BNI Plus (Disneyland): Stretch for Big Goals to Keep the Excitement & Money Growing

You will know your chapter is a BNI Plus chapter if it is five years old or more, has had a fairly stable membership of at least thirty to thirty-five members for a period of time, has mature referral relationships among members, and is successful in terms of traffic lights and TYFCB. Of course, this kind of chapter can also get a little too comfortable, and when that happens you’ll begin to notice smaller increases in revenue (both per member and in the chapter overall), pockets of big producers and others who make very little revenue, and plateaued visitor numbers and member growth.

This chapter feels good to most members, so goals can almost seem like an unnecessary burden to those who are seasoned, successful and content. A great comment from one of our Leadership Teams on the Fast Track describes this challenge: “Complacency is the enemy of success.” Another way to think about it, which is indicative of why different goals are so crucial, is this: “It takes something different to stay at the top of the mountain than it took to get there.”

Let’s look at the type of goals that can help this group stay alive and thrive, not plateau and slip.

  1. Think BIG. This is a group that will benefit from a stretch goal. This is a goal that seems a little bigger than possible. We don’t often recommend stretch goals, because it can be demoralizing when they aren’t achieved, and they are often unrealistic for chapters who aren’t in this stage. But for BNI Plus chapters, stretch goals can really serve to pull the group onward and upward!
    Suggested Activity: On an individual basis, focus on an increase in referral partners and revenue. You can focus on gaining two or three more referrals in each referral relationship, or ask members to start creating a referral relationship with their most “unlikely” referral partner in the chapter. This is a fun one, and demonstrates the true power of BNI.  On a chapter basis, set a total revenue goal that is still based on the total of the member’s Revenue and Referral Goal, plus a bit more. It should have a big feel to it. Many chapters do this the first time they become a million dollar chapter. After that, the Leadership Team needs to decide what other goal feels big, but is achievable. Goals that are too big quickly go by the wayside. So go big, but keep it doable and measurable.
  2. Strategic Growth with the Right New Members. This group can also benefit from goals that build a thriving team culture. This means building the chapter culture that attracts the type of member you want. When you are building this kind of culture, think of goals centered on Power Team development and success. However, don’t get too hyper-focused on Power Teams – members should still be encouraged to develop relationships with the rest of the chapter. When you combine Power Team focus with integrating all of your members into one big Power Team, your chapter gets fundamentally stronger in the long run. 
    Suggested Activity. Think about your Power Teams. What new members and professions would amplify their success? Are there members without Power Teams, and could the chapter help create new ones around them? To balance the Power Team activity, have a competition for which Power Team passes the most referrals outside of their team. Or, which Power Team generates the most money for members not on their team.
  3. Make Attitude-Attitude-Attitude the Cultural Standard. Another aspect of building chapter culture is to stay focused on shaping that winning combination of Attitude at the Leadership Team level, Attitude at the member level, and Attitude in the invited guests. Nothing demonstrates success like happy, energized members making money. Are your current members displaying the BNI traits that help to attract new, dynamic visitors and members on a consistent basis? What kind of visitors are you attracting? Are you being choosy when selecting new members, or are you accepting every application? 
    Suggested Activity: Have an Attitude Meter on a board visible to all members, and rate attitude on a weekly basis. You could also appoint an Attitude Mascot. Reward positive attitudes with fun prizes. Have a good time with this!
  4. Fun Competition Breeds Success. In BNI Plus chapters, frequent initiatives like little competitions and random recognition keep the group on fire. What you want to do is recognize the behaviors you intend to encourage and increase among all members. Also, don’t forget to celebrate members even when they don’t expect it. Random recognition inspires members to make the best BNI behaviors natural and habitual. 
    Suggested Activity: Here are a few ideas you can start with, and the key is to make it meaningful for your chapter and your members. Think about fun little prizes you could present to the winners.
    1. Never Texts During the Meeting
    1. Best Target Market Specification
    1. Always 1st to Greet Visitors
    1. Passionately Passed the Most Referrals
    1. Can Be Counted On for Anything 

BNI Lite: Think Recovery Goals to Get Back on Track

If your chapter has reached this stage, either from a slow decline as a previously big and happy chapter, or from never really getting an effective lift-off in the beginning and continuously struggling to retain members, the good news is that you can build up from here to stable and consistent success. The most important step is to reach alignment throughout the chapter that everyone is committed to do what it takes to grow, and to do it with incredible energy and fun! We have seen many very, very (very!) small chapters take on the challenge to grow and make it. It was the commitment, dedication, and energy for the effort that laid the foundation.

Then, once alignment is in place, the key for these chapters is to establish small, step-by-step goals attached to specific activities for each member. The consistent effort of a small, dedicated group of individuals has the power to build back the team. They often end up with excellent, thriving chapters because they established particularly healthy chapter habits and dynamics in the rebuild. Below are some examples of goals to focus on at this stage.

  1. Yes, You Must Grow. Member growth for the chapter is the most immediate priority for BNI Lite. But the key to make it happen is to ensure it’s doable – you don’t just need a growth goal, you need bite-size chunks attached to specific activities for everyone. When the goals are small enough, they really feel and are possible. You need the opposite of stretch goals at this phase. When the goals are attainable and they are being met, members see the growth happening and become even more motivated to stay the course. Then the energy starts to build on itself and magic happens. Think of your chapter like a little engine – you will start by experiencing short spurts of energy and accomplishment, and eventually you’ll reach a powerful, sustainable hum! 
    Suggested Activity: If the chapter has slipped below twenty members, think of adding members in increments of two or three at a time with sequential stack days. Assign teams to work together on inviting. We have found there is often more accountability and synergy when they do. Goals for member growth could be something like, “Let’s add three new members in the next six weeks.” Remember, depending on conversion rates and chapter dynamics, this can mean actually asking up to twenty-five people to arrive at these three new members. Then take a breather, assimilate the new folks, and do another six week run for another three members. Within three months, you will have added six members! We have seen this strategic approach work many times in our Fast Track Visitor Experience Program.
  2. Keep Morale High. One of the most important areas to focus on in BNI Lite chapters is keeping the morale high, and encouraging members to keep the faith. Setting and reaching small goals helps with this, so that members can have some wins. In addition, many times when chapters have lost members and are feeling small, they forget all the intangibles that belonging to a great business team offers. To keep the fires burning, you can highlight some of those softer outcomes that members are experiencing. It helps everyone to focus on the positive. 
    Suggested Activity: Have each member think about three things that belonging to the chapter has offered them. Tell them to be prepared to share these with the group. Choose two or three members each week to share – you can draw cards from a hat or just call on people. Some examples might include: “I have a group of people that care about me,” “Knowing the challenges that other members face helps me understand this is a normal part of growing a business,” “I’ve had really good advice about my business from members here”, or “Just having this meeting to come to is a big factor in my commitment to my success.” Big Hint: Visitors love to hear these things, which they may not have thought about, but can often be the tipping point in deciding to join your group!
  3. Ask for Support from Others. Consider asking for help in the form of inspiration, tips, and advice from other chapters. Do you know of other chapters in your region who are building and growing or experiencing BNI Disneyland? Talk to your Director and other members in your region. Invite other chapters to become part of your chapter’s success. The fundamental philosophy of BNI is Givers Gain – and this is a great opportunity for bigger, successful chapters to give back and support their region as a whole. Don’t be afraid to ask others to take your chapter under their wing, help you with visitors, and illuminate your chapter’s future and what’s possible in BNI! 
    Suggested Activity: Choose two or three (or more) chapters, and have different members visit them and report back on what they experienced and how you could replicate some of those aspects in your own chapter. You could also request targeted support from other chapters with inviting visitors. Remember to be specific about the type of members and professions that would make your chapter strongest right now. Many times chapters who are large and successful have their chairs filled, but they are great at inviting for you, because they are experiencing BNI Success NOW!

So, there you have it — different goals for different stages in the BNI Chapter Lifecycle. If you’re not sure which stage your chapter is in, click here for a checklist we created to help you decide. We also did a resource call on this topic, and you can click here to listen to the recording.

As we close out this article, we have some final tips for you on chapter goal setting. We’ve learned a few things after working with hundreds of chapters and Leadership Teams over the last ten years:

  • With all goals, the more specific they are, the easier it is to measure progress and adjust the targets as needed;
  • Keep goals front and center each week. We know chapters that create and display Goal Boards always achieve more;
  • If you are not making progress on your goals, make a plan that helps you adjust your goal to an achievable one;
  • When you tie goals to the activities that work to accomplish them, you can always increase or decrease the activity to make progress toward the goal.

Here’s an example of how easy it is to adjust when your goals are tied to activities. Let’s say your goal is to have five visitors at your next meeting. You think that you need to invite twenty visitors to get five to attend, because you guess that one person will attend for every four people you invite. However, you find out that you invite twenty visitors and only two attend. That means your ratio is not what you thought, so you will need to invite ten visitors for one to show up.  Adjust the number of your invites, and meet your goal! Once activity is associated, goals become part of real-world formulas, not “pie in the sky” thinking.

We have one last piece of information for you, and it’s one of our favorite anecdotes about goal setting. Did you know that all planes are consistently straying off course between their destinations? It’s true, due to all kinds of factors like wind and weather. It is the pilot’s job to track the progress toward the target and adjust as necessary to bring the plane back on course. The goal stays the same, but the behavior can always adjust. When you are on the Leadership Team, you are the pilot for your chapter. When you apply smart, targeted goal setting and you expect to track and adjust behavior as you go, you will reach your destination!

Questions about your chapter or how to make the most of your term on the Leadership Team? Feel free to contact Sara Minnis directly at sara@delfuego.com or 512-736-8716.

You can also visit our website at bni.delfuego.com for more information and free resources for all BNI members.

Make Money for Showing Up!

Featuring guest co-author Beatrice Sparacino


Have you ever gotten an haircut… over the phone? Probably not. It’s just one of those things that you have to actually be present for. Well, it turns out – so is BNI.  People join BNI to exchange referrals and increase their business. Intellectually, we understand that it is important to build relationships but it may not be obvious just how critical that is to the referral process.

We discovered the impact that attendance had on the organization many years ago when some BNI groups met twice a month. Yes, it’s true – some groups actually met twice a month back in 1985. Why don’t we do that now you might be wondering?  Well, that’s an easy answer.  We discovered that chapters that met twice a month passed 52% less referrals than groups meeting weekly!!!  Did that really sink in just now?  They passed 52% less referrals than groups that met weekly. That is a shocking statistic.  When the groups were shown this hard data back in ’85, every single group except one switched to meeting weekly.  The one group that refused shut down from lack of success a few months later.  Consequently, since early 1986, all BNI groups have met weekly.

The co-author of this article, Beatrice Sparacino, found similar and compelling evidence as part of her recent theses from the University of Bocconi in Milan Italy. In her study, she looked at the amount of closed business compared to the number of absences per member in her region.  As the graph below indicates, those members who had fewer absences are also the members who received more closed business. You can see in the graph that as the number of absences double, the amount of closed business a member generated actually falls by more than 50%!  Does that statistic sound familiar?  It hasn’t changed over the years. Less absences within a chapter, equal more referrals and more closed business. The data is compelling.

BNI is an accelerator for business referrals, reducing the time required to build relationships and trust between people. That trust enables you to receive referrals and obtain more closed business.  In this sense, being present at your chapter’s meeting every week keeps you “top of mind” for all your fellow members.

Recently Massimo Osenga, a member in Vercelli Italy did a short training on the importance of being present to his chapter.  He said that some time ago, he became very passionate about a famous reality television show. In particular, he really loved one couple competing in the show.  He started following them on Twitter, Facebook and other social media. And then, the unthinkable happened.  His favorite couple was eliminated from the competition and were no longer on the show. At first, Massimo was very disappointed.  However, after a number of weeks, they were invited back as guests to the show. It was at that point that he realized that in that incredibly short period of time he totally forgot about his favorite contestants!!!

The old adage “out of sight, out of mind” is absolutely true also when it comes to referrals in BNI.  Members who think that missing meetings regularly doesn’t really matter are clearly mistaken.  The data is crystal clear.  Miss meetings and lose business or make meetings and get business.  The data is very compelling and has been since the start.

The choice is yours!

It’s up to you to decide what you want to get out of your Chapter experience.

Called the “father of modern networking” by CNN, Dr. Ivan Misner is a New York Times bestselling author.  He is the Founder and Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, the world’s largest business networking organization.  His new book, Avoiding the Networking Disconnect can be viewed at Amazon.com.

The BNI Foundation Welcomes New Board Members

Submitted by Beth Misner, BNI Foundation Co-Founder and President


The BNI Foundation was recently approved by the United States IRS as a 501(c)(3) not-for-profit charity. As many of you will know, the BNI Foundation has been a donor-advised fund for the last 18 years as part of the California Community Foundation. While we transition from CCF to our own not-for-profit entity, a few things are shifting for us. The most exciting shift is the formation of our own Board of Directors.

Below is a list of the BNI Foundation Board of Directors and board roles:

Jeff Stay, Board Chair
Andy Hart, Board Vice Chair
Beth Misner, Board Secretary
Michael Walchonski, Board Treasurer
Graham Weihmiller, Board Member

The BNI Foundation welcomes these board members, and together, we are excited about the future of our company’s world-wide philanthropic work for children and education. Our next big update will be a brand new website which will reflect our new status.

Global Video Contest Launches for Member Submissions

BNI is excited to announce a video contest that will take place through October 31, 2016. All current BNI members are encouraged to participate.

BNI wants to hear YOUR story! Why do you love BNI? How has it changed your professional and personal life?

Rules:

All submissions must:

  • Be NO LONGER than two minutes.
  • State in the beginning of the video your name, location (city, state/province, country) and Chapter name.
  • Be received by 11:59 pm ET (U.S.) on Monday, October 31, 2016 to be considered.
  • Be a spoken testimonial focused on how BNI has positively impacted your professional or personal life.
  • Include a signed Photo Release Consent Form (downloadable here).
  • (For languages other than English) provide a written translation of the video into English, or include English subtitles in the video.

Prizes:

There will be three winners selected:

1st Place will win a one-hour Skype meeting with BNI Founder, Dr. Ivan Misner, and an autographed copy of Dr. Misner’s book.

2nd Place will win an autographed copy of two of Dr. Misner’s books.

3rd Place will win a BNI gift Tumbler filled with BNI promotional items.

Judging:

Videos will be judged based on compelling storyline, story-telling ability, and quality of audio/video.

The BNI International Board of Advisors will select the three winners. Winners will be notified by November 30, 2016.

How to Submit:

We want your video to be the best quality it can be. Before filming, check out this guideline for capturing the perfect footage.

Please complete the Photo Release Consent Form (available here) and upload it with your video submission to https://bnimarketing.sharefile….

If you have any questions or issues with submitting your video, please contact branding@bni.com.

By submitting a video, the content becomes property of BNI, and according to the Photo Release Consent Form, may be used in BNI Marketing initiatives.

Is Your Chapter On Fire, On Hold, or In a Hole?

Featuring guest co-author Elisabeth Misner



You walk into some chapters and they are on fire!  They are energized, goal-oriented, thriving, and most importantly they are reporting high dollar values with their Thank You for Closed Business (TYFCB).  While others are basically on hold, just going through the motions, doing the minimum, and getting average results.  Then, there are others that just seem to be “in a hole,” always struggling with attendance, not holding members accountable, not excited, and having difficulty maintaining strong membership.

Stop for a moment and think to yourself – where is your group relating to these three phases.  Be honest – where do you think your group stands?

If you think your group is on fire – then let me congratulate you.  That was my vision for what a great BNI Experience should be about.   If your group is on hold – trust me when I say that it doesn’t take a lot to move from this phase to on fire.  I’ve seen many groups do that in a short time.  If your group is in a hole – don’t despair.  You can be an incredible group.  Believe me, I have seen it.  The exciting thing is – it is actually possible to leap frog over the middle right to an on fire group fairly quickly with the right Leadership Team and a full commitment from your members.

All groups go through cycles or phases.  It happens.  It’s ok.  The key – is to recognize the cycles and know when it’s time to up your game.  Why accept mediocrity, when excellence is an option? Excellence is an option and I see it every day in BNI chapters around the world.

Let’s look closer at the three phases:

On Fire Groups: These chapters are not willing to settle for mediocrity! They are the biggest, the best, and the most productive chapters for members to be in. Their Leadership Teams are committed to the BNI policies, guidelines and the system. Their members attend virtually all the trainings offered by local region, often over and over. You will find many members with several ribbons attached to their badges denoting the many roles they have held in the chapter: Visitor Host, Education Coordinator, MSP Graduate, and so on. These members often quote BNI Podcast episode numbers to me when I meet them!

Most of the members in these groups have fully completed their BNI Connect profiles, including member testimonials, badges and CEUs from the many trainings they have attended. They are actively passing referrals online and reporting them to the chapter at each weekly meeting. It is common to hear many stories from these chapters about extremely lucrative connections. They always report far higher TYFCB than their counterparts in the same region.

The excitement level at their chapter meetings is simply electric!  Chapters in this phase exude high energy and a very positive attitude.  The chapters are likely to try most or all of the ideas offered by their Director. They effectively utilize one-to-one’s, worksheets like the GAINS Exchange, or the Chapter Reality Check, and they have almost full attendance at Member Success Program training.  They use Meeting Stimulants developed by BNI and their Education Coordinators regularly review BNI SuccessNet articles or the BNI Podcast episodes each week.

In addition, they tend to operate in a very friendly environment, have a great culture of support and positivity, have more members than the average, generate a lot of referrals, and enforce accountability in the group. They are there to do business, but they also understand the importance of adhering to a structure. Most importantly, they don’t let either business or structure get in the way of having fun and developing close relationships.

On Hold: In this phase chapters have become somewhat complacent. They may have been in the on fire phase at one time and lost some of the spark that made them successful, or they may be a smaller chapter that has begun to give up on growth and has accepted the status quo.

A chapter that is going through this phase tends to believe that things are okay as they are and don’t have any pressing desire to work on enhancing their meetings or developing the quality or quantity of members. They may feel like the amount of business they are doing is okay, even if it is not that great. They may take some suggestions offered by their Directors, but they are just as likely to dismiss other suggestions, because they think they don’t apply to them or they feel they know best. They tend to follow many (but not all) of the policies and the basic structure of the meetings, but they have lost the enthusiasm and spirit that makes for a great group.

In a Hole: Chapters in this phase tend to have numerous problems. Attitudes, referrals, and attendance are all lower than the groups in the other phases I’ve discussed. Unfortunately, most of the membership is focused on the problems and not on positive solutions. I have found that when chapters focus on problems and not the solutions, they become an expert on the problems. This is where these chapters live as a group.

They tend not to follow the agenda, structure, and/or policies. In addition, they tend to view their local Director as an outsider, rather than a resource to coach and support them to make the BNI process work. They tend to make many exceptions for the actions of their members and generally seek the path of least resistance relating to the way they apply policies and procedures. It’s hard for them to grow and succeed until they have a reset of the mindset. That process begins by recognizing the phase they are in and working with their Director to get back on track.

Almost all chapters go through the phases or cycles listed above; however, the really successful chapters tend to spend more time in the on fire phase than either of the other two phases. Once again, consider where your chapter is in these cycles. A good tool to use is the “Rate Your Chapter” worksheet. If you determine that you are in the on hold or in a hole phase, contact your Director to get some suggestions on how you can help the group achieve excellence.

BNI has thousands of groups in dozens of countries.  With that many groups, we have landed on the right combination of passion, structure, accountability, and culture to make groups work. Don’t reinvent the wheel! The process works very well for the chapters that effectively use the tools and assistance that BNI provides.

As important as passion is to success, I believe that passion alone does not produce results, passion and commitment produce results!

I’d love to hear your thoughts about these cycles.  Have you experienced them?  How did you move up the ladder?  Sharing your experiences can help other members achieve success.

Leadership Teams ? Do You Understand Your Chapter?s Lifecycle?

Submitted by Sara Minnis, BNI Fast Track, del Fuego Companies


Welcome to the first article in our ongoing Leadership Team Series!

As all good leaders learn along the way, ?Knowledge is Power.? And you don?t have to be a Boy Scout to agree with their motto, ?Be Prepared.? So it stands to reason that as the leader of your BNI troop, it?s important to understand where you are on the Chapter Lifecycle, and how it may impact your term.

The first step in great leadership is to truly understand the structure and character of the team you are leading, and the Chapter Lifecycle helps you do just that. Different types of teams will require different approaches and timelines in order to achieve the same outcome. And in BNI, we can all can agree that the result we want is chapter growth, lots of referrals, and business success for everyone!

We?ve learned through many years of coaching chapters that there are three different stages in the BNI Lifecycle of Chapter Culture. Moreover, we?ve observed that Leadership Teams who truly understand where their chapter is on the curve are in a much better position to develop winning strategies which help their chapter succeed.

Take a look at the graph below, and think about where you would place your chapter. Then read on for specific information and strategies we recommend for Leadership Teams in each stage.

The BNI Build & Grow Chapter

This chapter is often younger (up to 3 years or so in age), and is doing everything the BNI way! One-to-Ones, meeting structure, inviting, growing? and there is excitement, fun, and lots of positive energy in the room. You definitely know if you are in this kind of chapter.

The challenge at this stage is to continue the momentum and nurture the thriving culture, as your chapter members practice the behaviors that consistently encourage positive growth and results. The one accomplishment that your term can focus on is exactly how you plan to maintain the success. What we know is that these three areas are always important:

  1. Clear Goals.?Why? Because we all do more when our target is specific and clear. Without it, how do we know where to aim? It helps us to focus our activities and our energy. Without goals, a chapter moving forward at this stage can begin to scatter and experience a loss in both momentum and membership.
  2. A Culture of Learning.?Chapters that value and provide consistent education for members experience several benefits. First, their members are excited and empowered, because they?re actually learning how to get good at referral marketing, and specifically how to build referral relationships in the chapter. Additionally, the concepts in this type of education can often be applied to members? businesses directly, therefore extending the value of their BNI membership. Plus, learning together is a team building activity. And as if that?s not enough, we find that education and training become a big selling point for visitors. They say, ?I can see the potential this group has for my business, and they?ll teach me exactly how to reap those benefits? Where do I sign up?!?
  3. Chapters in this stage are still learning how to do BNI. And we consider that a positive! While everyone is open and willing to study the BNI playbook together, it?s the perfect time to institute best practices and build the habits that will make your team successful. Believe us? introducing accountability later in the game can be much more challenging! We have seen time after time that establishing the good behaviors of BNI in the Build and Grow phase pays huge dividends as your chapter continues to mature.

If you?d like to hear a chapter at this stage in action,?click here to listen?to our Fast Track Friday Call with The A Team.

The BNI Plus (Disneyland) Chapter

The BNI Plus chapter is like Disneyland to both members and visitors ? the whole shebang is functioning perfectly, the energy is fantastic, and everything?s in tip-top shape! In our experience, chapters in this stage are somewhere from 4 to 19 years old. (Yes, we?ve worked with chapters that ?old? who are still thriving in a big way!)

The key to this type of chapter is that it?s stable. Other hallmarks include a vibrant culture, friendly energy, consistent inviting habits, members making money, and low attrition rates. Basically in this type of chapter, it?s ?All Good!?

So, if you?re thinking of being on the Leadership Team for this kind of chapter, consider this statement and make your plans accordingly: ?It?s one thing to get to the top of the mountain, but it?s a whole other thing to stay there!?

What does that really mean? For most of us, it means that the ?thrill? of getting to the top and being successful starts to fade a bit once we?ve achieved the objective. When we reach our goals, we start to celebrate, as we should! We start to feel like we?ve mastered all the methods that helped us get there. So we do a little less learning, a little less striving. This type of slow-down is natural and appropriate for a time, but if we?re not careful we actually become so comfortable that we stop doing the activities that got us to the top in the first place. And then the dreaded backslide begins.

If we want to stay at the top of the mountain, we need a new set of tools, strategies, and benchmarks created specifically for our revised objective. And the same applies to BNI chapters in the Disneyland stage. New goals are especially important to help to raise the bar, reset momentum, and encourage the continuation of the activities and behaviors that led to success.

In our experience, seasoned and successful members can really benefit from a review of the BNI Fundamentals, and a reminder of the concrete elements that make BNI work so effectively. Haven?t you found that if you read a book or watch a movie more than once, you pick up things that you didn?t ?catch? the first time around? Well the same is true for learning the basics of BNI. One of our favorite things to hear, especially from long-term, veteran BNI members is, ?I?d forgotten that piece?? or ?I understand this so much better now? this time it really clicked!?

Looking for more strategies for the BNI Plus chapter? Here are two more quick suggestions:

  1. Sometimes a focus on 2 or 3 new referral partners, instead of the easy or comfortable ones, can be helpful for injecting energy and drumming up new business.
  2. Concentrating on referral feedback, that is, what?s really happening once referrals are passed, can deliver a big boost to better quality referrals.

The key to all of this is helping the chapter understand why any of the above are necessary. Most people don?t think about doing anything when the ?Livin? is Easy.? Helping your members see that continual effort at achievement is the way to stay at the top helps them remain motivated and engaged.

One more tip ? this chapter thrives on leadership with Attitude, Attitude, Attitude. Think of this as your All-Star Team, needing to stay on point and practice new plays for next season!

Listen to a BNI Disneyland chapter for yourself ??click here?for our Fast Track Friday call with BNI Premier.

The BNI Lite Chapter

This is a chapter where membership is low, the chapter has a high attrition rate, and members are struggling to invite visitors. Many of the wonderful BNI components aren?t effective, because the low number of members keep what?s needed in referrals from being possible.

Surprisingly, this stage can occur at any chapter age. Even in year one, if the chapter struggled at launch and never got any traction or momentum. Then it just becomes a weekly struggle. Very successful chapters can also reach this stage ? even after BNI Disneyland ? if they rested in a loooong comfort zone and then ?suddenly? (not really) lost many members. The roads to BNI Lite may vary, but the needs for a chapter in this stage are the same. It?s time to re-invigorate, re-commit and grow.

If you are on the Leadership Team in this kind of chapter, it is critical to get everyone on the same page?as soon as possible,?and present a specific plan for improvement that involves all members. Often a BNI Lite chapter has some accountability issues, so tightening those up immediately is essential. Why? Because in this type of group where members are being asked to put in extra effort to develop the chapter, everyone feels more comfortable when a firm structure is in place and the same rules apply to everyone.

One of the big keys to success with a chapter at this stage is to not be overwhelmed by attempting to do everything at once. A few specific goals that are easily achievable work best. We all do better when we can achieve the goal we set, rather than face another little defeat.

Here?s a great example of this in terms of chapter growth. If a chapter is at 13 or 14 members after sudden attrition, setting a goal to grow to 30 is usually overwhelming for members. That?s because in most cases it would involve getting at least 75+ qualified visitors to the chapter meeting, and that would mean inviting 350-400 people. That?s about 30 people per member? which is so much more than we think we can do, so our insides just quit. It?s much better, for example, to aim for growing to 20 members in 6 to 8 weeks. Then take a little breather for 3 weeks or so, to let the new members get their feet under them, and then do another little surge. Smaller, achievable goals for member growth are really helpful at this stage.

Our other tips for chapters in BNI Lite include continuing education on the BNI Basics, with the members focused on really understanding their revenue and referral goals. This will help them get motivated to actually?want?a bigger chapter, because they?ll see how that can impact their individual goals.

We also see that really reinforcing one-to-one?s and referrals has a significant impact. This can again be achieved with smaller, attainable goals. Need some examples of basic goals that don?t overwhelm? How about 1 One-to-One with another member per week, and 1 referral per week? When we ask BNI Lite chapters to undertake these minimum goals, it?s a big step toward creating accountability in the chapter, as most members have stopped doing the basics that actually make BNI work!

The key to achievement is being responsible for the activities that lead to results. Focusing on results only, without a plan of action, can be demoralizing. If your members don?t know what they need to DO to meet the chapter?s goals, and there?s nothing in place to support their efforts and help them?practice the behaviors?they need to get there, they are much more likely to get discouraged or even give up.

Believe it or not, it is actually very exciting to be on the Leadership Team for this type of chapter! You have a huge opportunity to make your mark on the group. If you can achieve buy-in from everyone, introduce a proven strategy, and build a business-focused group poised for success ? then you are not only making a difference for the group, but also mastering a new level of leadership skills which you can utilize in your business and your life.

We have many stories of chapters who struggled in the BNI Lite stage, until a small team of leaders formed and executed a plan with vision, commitment, and determination! As Larry the Cable Guy would say, ?Get ?er done!?

For one great story with a chapter going from BNI Lite back to BNI Plus,?click here to listen?to our Fast Track Friday call with Masters of Business.

The BNI Lifecycle is a powerful tool for Leadership Teams to assess and manage their chapters. We often use the Chapter Culture Curve as we coach teams who want more out of BNI. If you?d like to talk more about your team specifically and how we?d recommend using this tool for success,?contact us?? we love talking with Leadership Teams and we?d be glad to set aside some time for you.

Once you know where you are in the Chapter Lifecycle, you can understand how powerful a system like?BNI Fast Track?can be for your chapter. With education and training in the BNI Basics, getting everyone on the same page, goal-setting, and action-based team practice week after week, it?s a proven way to turn your chapter into a money-making business team. We?ll look more closely at how Fast Track impacts chapters later in the Leadership Team Series.

Current Member Mentoring: Why We Could All Benefit

Submitted by Dan Swider, BNI Vermont Chapter Launch Director


One of the great things about BNI is our Mentoring Program.  Chapters with strong mentoring teams consistently see better member retention.  This is because new members are not left to just figure BNI out.   How many of you know that there is also a Current Member Mentoring program?  Now, how many of you are saying to yourselves, “Self, I have been doing this for a few years and I am darn good at referral marketing”?

It is pretty safe to assume that in BNI we are all pretty good at what we do.  After all, that is how we got through the interview process to become a member in the first place!  That said, almost none of us are experts at referral marketing.

I know in my own membership, asking for a mentor in my third year changed my entire membership.  I was struggling.  And getting a perspective from another member on how to be better at this was a huge boost for me.  Keep in mind, no mentor is going to tell you how to run your business.  Current Member Mentoring is about becoming a better member and getting a better return on your BNI investment.

Maybe you are in the second year of your membership and you have the basics down.  Have you asked someone for a perspective on how to take it to the next level?  I would bet after a year or more in BNI, you may have an entirely different set of questions then the ones you walked in with day 1.  Have you reached out to your Mentor Coordinator and asked them to assign you an available mentor?

Current Member Mentoring is set up to be driven by the member who has questions or wants to improve as a member.  There is a plan in place and people in your chapter trained to help you.  The first step in becoming a better member is asking!

Inter-Chapter Power Team Works to Raise Money for Charity

Submitted by Anita McAloren, Gravesend BNI, Kent, UK


I have been a member of Gravesend BNI (Kent, UK) for nearly 5 years. I’ve put together a very successful A Team and want to share how the power of BNI Power Teams has impacted an event I am involved in with my other business head.

I am also a keen owner of a Volkswagon (VW) T5 Camper van and passionate about VWs. I was on a forum on Facebook at the inception of the VW M25 Run The Ring event and offered my marketing and PR expertise to John Emberton (MD of National Lock & Safe in Watford). He took me up on my offer.

Early morning on September 25, 2016, a whole load of VW owners will be cruising around the M25, ‘running the ring’ to not only have some fun and be part of this never done before cruise, but also to fund raise for the Teenage Cancer Trust.

“Back in March, I had to find a map for a work project and stumbled across this picture, which amused me,” said John. “I then put a joke post on a VW Facebook forum ‘Anybody want to run my ring?’  These posts lead to many of the members saying what a great idea. I realized then that this could be one of the longest cruises of VW Transporter Vans ever seen in the UK so I started a new group on Facebook called VW M25 Run the Ring.”

I proposed to him that the event needed a logo and also merchandise, and I knew just the guys who could help with this. I then introduced Neil Claydon (Promo-Bound BNI Gravesend member) and Richie Bennett (Graphic Designer and member of Brands Hatch) to John and roll forward to now… we are the A team! I am heading up the marketing and PR, Neil is head of merchandise, and Richie has worked not only on the logo, but branding for the clothing too – a match made in heaven!

The event will take place at 8:30 am on Sunday, September 25, and is open to all VW owners – Vans, Campers to Beetles. Our entrees will join the M25 at 4 various service stations – South Mimms, Lakeside/Thurrock, Clackets and Cobham (TBC). Once they have completed ‘the ring’ they will be rewarded with the knowledge they have taken part in something spectacular and for a great cause.

The website www.runthering.co.uk has recently launched, where those interested can enter the cruise, donate, purchase merchandise and secure their place.

“We want to create the longest cruise of VW’s the UK has seen and whilst doing it, raise a load of cash for Teenage Cancer Trust,” said John.

Embrace Change at Every Level to Achieve Your Goals

Submitted by Paul R. Scheele, Ph.D., Learning Strategies

The late William Perry, professor of education at Harvard, used to say, “Whenever someone comes to me for help, I ask myself: What does this person really want. And what will they do to keep from getting it?”

Even when we want to adopt a new behavior that’s aligned with our goals, we often generate the very obstacles that prevent us from achieving them.

It could just be that you’re not clear on exactly what to do. Or at some level you feel uneasy about actually making the change.

These obstacles can kick in with any plan for behavior change. The change might be a small one, such as driving a new route to work, or a major commitment, such as adopting a daily exercise program or meditation practice.

Whenever you plan to change any behavior, make sure that you “sign on” at all levels of your being. Let your intention become crystal clear. Feel the benefits that will immediately flow into your life.

Make your planned change so vivid and valuable that it resonates in your heart. Let the readiness to change sink down into the very muscles that will soon move in new ways.

Experiment with these suggestions:

  • Think of a model—a person who consistently demonstrates the behavior that will help you achieve your goal. Imagine that person in front of you right now, performing the behavior with mastery.
  • Carefully check your feelings to make sure that this is what you want. Ask yourself, If I could have this resource as my own, would I choose it? If your feelings say no, then modify the behavior until it’s just right.
  • Now focus on the subtle details of this behavior… the posture involved… the rhythm and tempo of the movements… the quality of the voice… how facial muscles move when your model speaks.
  • Now put yourself in place of your model. See yourself doing the exact behavior that your model demonstrated. Feel yourself using the same muscles… the same posture… the same movements… the same voice.
  • As you repeat this visualization several times, completely accept the new behavior. Know that it will serve you in positive ways. This rich resource is already available to you whenever you want it.

To help you construct neural pathways in your brain that enable the new and successful behaviors you want to adopt, I recommend you listen to an audio program I created called New Behavior Generator.

This program includes two sessions of the unique Paraliminal technology of personal achievement. Simply push play, close your eyes, relax, and listen. You will be led through a closed-eye process that activates your “whole mind” with a precise blend of music and words to help you acquire new behaviors.

To learn more about New Behavior Generator and the 41 other Paraliminal programs, please click here. Other titles in the Paraliminal library include Anxiety-Free, Deep Relaxation, Focus & Concentration, Self-Discipline, Peak Performance, Power Thinking, and Success Built To Last.